How Tinder works: Tinder is probably the most popular dating app in the world. The use of Tinder corresponds to the “hot or not” principle. You will see photos of other people. A swipe to the right means that you like the person. A swipe to the left means the opposite. Only when two people liked each other, they get a match on Tinder. Instead of taking dating to the 21st century, many people have gathered bad experiences on Tinder.
The basic functions of Tinder are free of charge, but with the premium paid memberships “Tinder Plus” or “Tinder Gold” you can receive some additional features. With “Tinder Gold” you can see who likes you, before you have to swipe yourself.
How does the typical Tinder review looks like?
Depending on which gender you ask for a review about Tinder, the answer will be quite different. The average man has no matches on Tinder, and if he does get a match, the likelihood that the woman will answer him is low. Or worse: the woman is well below his level of attractiveness. The average women has enough matches, but the really attractive men rarely write them a first message. The attractive women, on the other hand, cannot keep up with their matches. Almost every swipe is a match but the attractive women aren’t really satisfied either. Most of the time they get a lot of impersonal messages from guys they aren’t interested in. And what about the attractive men? It is going well for them. In short, the big winners in the Tinder world are the 20% of the most attractive men.
The majority of men have no matches on Tinder!
The majority of men share the same experience on Tinder. They download the app, quickly upload a few photos and start swiping. The first frustration with this app comes as soon as they realize that they get no matches on Tinder. Life on Tinder is cruel. Especially if you are a average looking man. A socio-economist has researched and published under the pseudonym “Worst Online Dater” how cruel the life on Tinder really is. Since he didn’t get any hot dates himself, he had a lot of time to do all the research. The results are frustrating.
Research: Average men have it extremely difficult with dating apps
In his first study, Worst Online Dater examined what’s the most success, which a man can achieve on Tinder. For this he created two profiles on Tinder. First the “Attractive Guy” and then the “Unattractive Guy”. The “Attractive Guy” is 26 years old and got a fake photo of an very attractive man. While the “Unattractive Guy” is 34 years old and got a photo of an average man. (The term “Unattractive Guy” is probably a bit misleading here. Actually, “Average Guy” would be more appropriate). Then he swiped each woman right.
As you might expect, the “Attractive Guy” did a much better job, but the extent is surprising. The attractive man achieved a Tinder Match rate of 22.6%. The average man came up with a meager 0.5% match rate. This means that the average man has to swipe 200 times to the right before he gets a single match. (And then it’s not even certain whether this is a match with a woman who is at least of average attractiveness.)
To be sure that this difference wasn’t caused by the different ages of the two profiles, he next swapped the ages of both profiles. “Attractive Guy” was now 34 years old and “Unattractive Guy” was 26 years old. The success rate of the “Unattractive Guy” did not change significantly with 0.4% match rate. Most importantly, the 34-year-old “Attractive Guy” was able to increase his match rate to incredible 42%.
Therefore, the moral of the story is: Tinder can actually work, but only if you are an very attractive man. Men in their 30s are particularly popular with women, but only if they look good. If you look average, then your age won’t help you either.
78% of women fight for 20% of the most attractive men!
In his second study, “Worst Online Dater” analyzed the usage data of female Tinder users and evaluated it statistically. The average woman just liked 12 percent of the men on Tinder. That leads to a situation where 78% of all women (regardless of whether they are attractive or not) are only interested in the 20% of the most attractive men. It is these 20% of the most attractive men, who receive the most of the matches. For the remaining men (at least 80%) who aren’t that hot, there aren’t many women left on Tinder.
For the 20% of the hot men, this is a paradise, but for the majority of men the siuation is hopeless, because most women on Tinder only like these few, very handsome men. With this study, the “Worst Online Dater” sends a very clear message: “If you aren’t super-hot, you are wasting your time on Tinder”. But this situation is also unsatisfactory for the majority of women because they cannot all get one of these good looking men.
Tinder has more inequality than 95% of all economies
The “Worst Online Dater” calculated this injustice in the online dating world and compared it with the imbalance in wealth distribution in all economies of the world. The result was, that Tinder is characterized with more inequality than 95% of all economies in the world. Only the wealth distribution in Angola, Haiti, Botswana, Namibia, the Comoros, South Africa, Equatorial Guinea and the Seychelles is more unequal than on Tinder.
Although this study was carried out on the basis of Tinder, these results can probably also be applied to other forms of online dating. Therefore, switching to a Tinder alternative such as OkCupid isn’t very promising if you are not one of these very attractive men.
Tinder does significant damage
University of North Texas researchers have found that Tinder does significant damage to men. According to the study, men have significantly lower self-esteem when using Tinder. With the results of the “Worst Online Dater” in mind, this can be explained quite easily. If an average looking man has to swipe right between 100 to 200 times in order for a single Tinder match to take place, then this can decrease his self-esteem.
The good news is that men don’t have to doubt themselves, if they are average. For this reason, there is no reason to take it personally, if you don’t get Tinder matches. This is not because you are unattractive. Instead it is because of the simple fact that you don’t belong to the 20% of the hottest guys on Tinder.
Apart from online dating apps like Tinder and OkCupid, there are plenty of other ways to get to know a partner. I recommend you to get to know women in real life. That has proven itself over thousands of years – and not just for the most attractive men. As soon as you start to get to know women in the real world, appearance no longer plays the most important role. In the book “The Psychology of Flirting” you will learn how you can achieve more success with women in real life.
If you look hot, your tinder pick up lines doesn’t matter
Have you ever wondered what it would be like on Tinder if you were super hot? A bodybuilding enthusiast who calls himself “German Lifter” on an internet forum has carried out an experiment and published his experiences on the internet. He created a fake Tinder profile to find out how well a male model performed on Tinder. A high match rate shouldn’t surprise us now, but it’s shocking how women react to a hot man. An average man has to put a lot of effort into writing a creative conversation starter that will hopefully arouse the interest of the woman. But in the case of a very attractive man, it doesn’t matter what they write. If you look like a male model, you can write almost anything and still get a woman’s number. You can find his sometimes very tasteless but entertaining opening lines of his Tinder experiment here .
Your photo is the most important success factor on Tinder
At the latest now it should be clear that Tinder and online dating in general is very superficial and that your success depends solely on your appearance. No matter how much time you spend improving your Tinder bio or formulating the perfect pick up line, in the end it is your photo that matters most.
What most people don’t know is, that photos don’t show us the way we really look. Different photos of the same man can be rated very differenty regarding his attractiveness. In one photo women can rate him as not attractive at all, while in another photo he is a high-flyer. If you have unattractive photos, it doesn’t mean that you look bad, instead it could be because of your inability to take good photos of yourself.
Looking good in photos is largely a question of ability, which can be learned through a lot of practice. Services such as Photofeeler help you with this. You can upload your pictures and let other women rate them, until you have taken your perfect photo for Tinder. You can also determine how old the women should be, who are going to rate your photos. In our next blog article, we explain how you can get significantly more matches with a good profile.