Tinder is probably the most popular dating app in the world. The use of Tinder corresponds to the “hot or not” principle. You will see photos of other people. A so-called swipe to the right means that you like the person. A swipe to the left means the opposite. Only when two people like each other is it a match. Instead of taking dating to the 21st century, many people have bad experiences with Tinder.
The basic functions of Tinder are free of charge, but with the premium paid memberships “Tinder Plus” or “Tinder Gold” you can receive some additional features. With “Tinder Gold” you can see who likes you, before you have to swipe yourself.
What is the typical Tinder experience like?
Depending on which gender you ask about their Tinder experience, the answer is quite different. The average man has no matches on Tinder, and if he does get a match, the likelihood that the woman will answer him is low. Or worse: the woman is well below his perceived level of attractiveness. The average women has enough matches, but the really attractive men rarely write. The attractive women, on the other hand, cannot keep up with their matches. Almost every swipe is a match. The attractive women are not really satisfied either. Most of the time they get a lot of impersonal messages from guys they are uninterested in. And what about the attractive men? They “run” the app. The big winners in the Tinder world are the 20% of users, the most attractive people.
The majority of men have no matches on Tinder!
The majority of men have the same experience on Tinder. You register, quickly upload a few photos and start swiping. The first frustration with this app comes as soon as they realize that they are not getting matches on Tinder. Life on Tinder is cruel. Especially if you are a more average looking man. In order to substantiate these subjective impressions with facts and figures, a socio-economist has researched and published under the pseudonym ” Worst Online Dater ” how cruel life really is on Tinder. Since he didn’t get any hot dates himself, he had a lot of time to do all these evaluations. The results are frustrating.
Study: Average men have it extremely difficult with dating apps
In his first study, Worst Online Dater examined what the best result a man can achieve on Tinder is. For this he created two profiles on Tinder. First the ” Attractive Guy” and then the ” Unattractive Guy”. The “Attractive Guy” is 26 years old and was provided with a photo of an attractive man from the Internet. The ” Unattractive Guy” is 34 years old and was provided with a photo of an average man. (The term ” Unattractive Guy” is probably a bit misleading here. Actually, “Average Guy” would be more appropriate). Then he gave every woman Tinder suggested a ” swipe ” to the right.
As you might expect, the ” Attractive Guy” did a much better job, but the scale is surprising. The attractive man received a Tinder Match rate of 22.6%. The average man came up with a meager 0.5% matches. Conversely, this means that the average man has to “swipe” 200 times to the right before he gets a single match. (And then it’s not even clear whether this is a match with a woman who is at least of average attractiveness.)
To rule out if this difference was caused by the different ages of the two profiles, he next swapped the ages for both profiles. “Attractive Guy” was now 34 years old and “Unattractive Guy” is 26 years old. The success rate of the ” Unattractive Guy” did not change significantly with 0.4% matches. The 34-year-old “Attractive Guy” was able to increase his quota to an incredible 42% Tinder match rate.
The moral of the story: Tinder can actually work. However, only if you are an attractive man. Men in their 30s are particularly popular with women, but only if they look good. If you are an average attractive male, your age will not help.
78% of women fight for 20% of the most attractive men!
In its second study, ” Worst Online Dater ” analyzed the usage data of female Tinder users and evaluated it statistically. The average woman just liked 12 percent of the men on Tinder. As a result, 78% of all women (regardless of whether they are handsome or not) are only interested in only 20% of the most attractive men. It is these 20% of the most attractive men who receive the most of the matches. For the remaining men (at least 80%) who do not belong to this select group, there are not many women left on Tinder.
For the 20% of optically superior men, this is a paradise. The situation is hopeless for the majority of men, because most women on Tinder only like these few, very handsome men. With this study, the “Worst Online Dater ” sends a very clear message: “If you are not super-hot, you are wasting your time on Tinder”. But this situation is also unsatisfactory for the majority of women because they will not all get one of the good men.
Tinder has more inequality than 95% of all economies
The ” Worst Online Dater ” calculated this injustice in the online dating world and compared it with the imbalance in wealth distribution in all economies of the world. The result: Tinder is characterized with more inequality than 95% of all economies in the world. Only the wealth distribution in Angola, Haiti, Botswana, Namibia, the Comoros, South Africa, Equatorial Guinea and the Seychelles is more unequal than on Tinder.
Although this study was carried out on the basis of Tinder, these results can probably also be applied to other forms of online dating. Therefore, switching to a Tinder alternative such as Lovoo is not very promising if you are not one of the very attractive men.
Tinder does significant damage
University of North Texas researchers have found that Tinder does significant damage to men. According to the study, men have significantly lower self-esteem when using Tinder. With the results of the “Worst Online Dater ” in mind, this can be explained quite easily. If an average looking man has to give a like to between 100 to 200 women in order for a single Tinder Match to take place, then this can only be reflected in a reduced self-esteem. Even if you are more attractive than average, only a few percent of women like you on Tinder.
The good news is that men don’t have to doubt themselves: they are average. For this reason, there is no reason to take it personally if you don’t get Tinder matches. This is not because you are unattractive, but because of the simple fact that you are not one of the 20% who are classified as the most attractive men.
Apart from online dating apps like Tinder and Lovoo, there are plenty of other ways to get to know a partner. Have you already had a negative Tinder experience? Or don’t you want to let it happen? Then I recommend you to try the classic ways of getting to know each other. These have proven themselves over thousands of years – and not just for the most attractive men. When you get to know women in the real world, appearance no longer plays the most important role as with Tinder and you can turn your Tinder weakness to a great advantage. In the book “The Psychology of Flirting” you will learn how you can achieve more success with women in real life.
Tinder experience of a very attractive man
Are you wondering what it looks like on the other side of the river? A bodybuilding enthusiast who calls himself “German Lifter” on an internet forum has carried out an amateur social experiment and published his experiences on the internet. He created a fake Tinder profile to find out how well a male model performed on Tinder. A high match rate shouldn’t surprise us now, but it’s shocking how women react to a hot man. While an average man has to put a lot of effort into writing a creative message that will hopefully arouse the interest of the woman, but in the case of a very attractive man, it doesn’t matter what they write. If you look like a male model, you can write almost anything and still get a woman’s number. You can find the sometimes very tasteless but entertaining chat processes of his Tinder experiment here .
A man’s profile picture is Tinder’s most important success factor
By now at the latest, it should be clear that Tinder and online dating in general is very superficial and that your success depends solely on your appearance. No matter how much time you spend improving your Tinder profile description or formulating your first messages, in the end it is your profile picture that matters most.
Most people don’t know that photos don’t show us the way we really are. Different photos of the same man can turn out completely different in the assessment of his attractiveness. In one photo women can rate it as not attractive at all, while in another photo it is a high- flyer. An unattractive profile picture does not primarily depend on the bad appearance, but on the inability to take good photos of yourself.
Looking good in photos is largely a question of ability, which can be learned through a lot of practice. Services such as Photofeeler help you with this. You can upload your pictures and let other people rate them. You can narrow down the rating so that your photos are only shown to women of a certain age range. You can take photos and have them rated on Photofeeler until you have taken your perfect Tinder profile picture. In our next blog article, we will explain how you can get significantly more Tinder matches with a good profile .